No.

TLDR: Some of my hardest seasons were full of no’s, and they’re the reason the good stuff could emerge.

What do you feel when you’re told no?

Failure?

Rejection?

An ending?

What if we thought about no a little differently?

Not as something harsh or final, but as refinement.

As clarity.

As a path to yes.

Every no brings something into sharper focus, even when it’s uncomfortable. Even when it’s not what we hoped for.

No removes noise.

No creates edges.

No makes space for depth.

No is how we get to yes faster.

When everything is a yes, nothing is intentional. Everything competes for your attention. When nothing has boundaries, depth feels impossible. Nothing has shape.

Why no can feel so hard

It’s hard to be told no. It feels so personal. No isn’t a judgment of worth. It’s information. 

Some of my biggest flop-eras genuinely sucked. They were seasons of no. No traction. No certainty. No immediate payoff. But those no’s that made the good stuff possible, even when I couldn't see it in the moment.

Uncomfortable, yes. Necessary, also yes.

If you’re open to it…

Take a moment and think about a recent no, one you said or one you received. You may not know what this "no" is offering quite yet, but consider the following:

Where am I being asked to let something go, even if it’s hard?

What does this no refine?

What does it preserve?

What might this make room for?

xoxo,

Meghan