Ready Isn't a Feeling

"I'm Not Ready" Is a Suprisingly Insidious Phrase.

It sounds vulnerable and thoughtful, even responsible.

You've probably said it about a promotion, a relationship, writing the book that lives in your head, getting in shape, starting the business, doing the things you keep saving, pinning, vision boarding, and journaling about.

You need to think about it some more. Ooh, and more research — yes, definitely more research. And you need to think through everything that could go wrong, gotta do that. And of course, you need to build a stronger foundation before you start, so back to pinning and journaling and waiting.

Hey, all of that sounds great.

But you do not need more time.

You're scared.

There, I said it.

What You're Actually Afraid Of

You're scared that if you start, you may fail. That people will judge you. That people will see you trying (the horror). You're scared of what changing your life might ask of you. Maybe you're scared you will succeed.

So instead, you stay busy.

You research. You plan. You reorganize. You consume content. You tweak things around the edges. You do tasks that LOOK like preparation and action, but are really just avoidance. Because busy is cozy.

I know because I was you. I started a whole podcast instead of starting my business. And then I felt weird about promoting it because of a fear of visibility. Avoidance has range.

Change is hard. But you know what's worse?

Pretending you are "getting ready" while another month, another year, another season of your life quietly passes by. And all the while, that idea, dream, curiosity, or calling that came to mind when you started reading this? It's still there. Triple texting you.

And every time you ignore it...every time you ignore yourself... you accumulate more guilt, more shame, and more "evidence" that maybe you're not capable after all.

That stops now.

Ready Is a Decision, Not a Feeling

Because ready is not a feeling. Ready is a decision.

And listen, I believe in preparation. You can't climb Everest in flip-flops. (Although honestly, I bet someone has and there's a documentary about it.) But preparation comes AFTER the decision.

After you decide you are worthy of the thing you want, you can figure it out as you go — because that's literal planning, discomfort is not danger, and being seen trying is part of the process. You have more cheerleaders than you think.

And all evidence so far points to one thing: you have figured things out before. You will again.

You. Are. Ready.

If You're Open To It

Ask yourself: what have I been postponing because I'm waiting to feel ready? And then ask: what might change if I trusted myself enough to begin before certainty arrived?

When you're done sitting with that, I currently have 3 spaces available for women who are done waiting to feel ready and are choosing to commit to 90 days. 90 days of follow-through, support, and action toward the version of you that's waiting. Let's chat.

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